For “Real” Men

40% of men have never spoken to anyone about their mental health... you are not alone.


Men's mental health is a crucial yet often under-discussed aspect of overall well-being. While mental health challenges affect everyone, men face unique pressures and barriers that can impact how they experience and address these issues.


“Man up.”

“Men don’t cry.”

“Be a real man.”


Being a man in this world can be lonely, we’re here to tell you that you are not alone. Approximately 12.5% of men in England experience a mental health disorder, such as depression, anxiety, or stress. This means that if you’re sitting with a group of 10 men, at least 1, if not 2 of you will likely be battling with your mental health.

 

Why do men keep quiet about their mental health?

Stigma and masculinity norms play a big role in the secrecy of men’s mental health. Many men are socialised to be stoic, self-reliant, and emotionally reserved. These traditional norms of masculinity can discourage men from seeking help or expressing vulnerability, leading to untreated mental health conditions.

 

Common Mental Health Issues in Men:

    • Depression and anxiety often go undiagnosed or are expressed differently (e.g., through irritability, anger, or substance use).
    • Substance abuse is also more common in men, sometimes used as a coping mechanism for underlying mental health struggles.
    • Suicide rates are significantly higher among men than women, particularly in middle-aged and older men.

     

    Warning Signs to Watch For:

      • Withdrawal from friends and activities
      • Changes in sleep, appetite, or energy
      • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
      • Expressions of hopelessness or thoughts of self-harm

     

    “I’ve tried everything, I need professional help…”

    You’re brave for realising you need help and we’re glad you're doing something about it. It's a critical issue, and there are several resources available in the UK to support men facing mental health challenges.


    Support Services for Men in the UK:

     

    • James' Place

    Offers free, face-to-face therapy for men experiencing suicidal thoughts. With locations in Liverpool, London, and Newcastle, James' Place provides a safe space for men to talk and receive support.

    Visit https://www.jamesplace.org.uk/ or call 01513035757

     

    • MANUP?

    Provides free therapy sessions and talks for men, focusing on topics like mindfulness, social prejudices, and midlife challenges. Sessions are led by experienced psychotherapists and are designed to be accessible and non-judgmental.

    Visit https://www.manup.how 

     

    • Andy's Man Club

    A peer-to-peer support group with over 240 locations across the UK. These weekly meetings offer a safe environment for men to talk openly about their mental health without fear of judgment.

    Visit https://andysmanclub.co.uk

     

    • MenWalkTalk

    Combines walking and talking to promote mental well-being. Groups meet regularly across the UK, encouraging men to discuss their feelings in a relaxed, outdoor setting.

    Visit https://menwalktalk.co.uk

     

    • Men’s Minds Matter

    Specializes in suicide prevention and intervention, offering psychological support and resources for men experiencing suicidal thoughts. They also provide guidance for those supporting friends or family members in crisis.

    Visit https://www.mensmindsmatter.org

       

      • Tight Lines (Cornwall) 

      A community angling club focused on mental health support, providing men with a space to connect, relax, and talk openly.

      Visit https://www.tight-lines.org

       

      Digital and Text-Based Support:

      • CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): Offers a helpline (0800 58 58 58) and webchat service for men experiencing distress. Available 5pm–midnight, 365 days a year.
      • BeAMate Text Service: A partnership between Mates in Mind and Shout, providing free, confidential support via text. Simply text BEAMATE to 85258 to start a conversation.
      • SHOUT: A free, confidential text service available 24/7. By texting SHOUT to 85258, you can connect with trained volunteers who provide immediate support for issues like stress, anxiety, or depression.


      Additional Resources:

      • Movember Foundation: Provides information and resources on men's mental health, including a directory of organizations offering support for various challenges.
      • Men’s Sheds: Community spaces where men can engage in practical hobbies, make friends, and share skills, promoting mental well-being through social interaction.
      • Mind: Provides information and support for mental health issues. Visit mind.org.uk.
      • Samaritans: Offers 24/7 confidential support. Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.org.

       

      For urgent medical advice, call 111 or visit 111.nhs.uk

      For emergencies, call 999

      You are not alone.